Sunday, May 29, 2011

Love vs. Compassion... etc. And Rentals


"Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn, or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. “
~Denis Waitley

This past week I learned that my landlord has reconsidered and is extending the lease on the house I’ve been renting…one more year ~ a reprieve!  I feel happy but I doubt that in the moment that I got the news  I was living life with “love, grace, and gratitude”.   Although, be assured, that I am grateful  that he and his wife have changed their minds.  The pressure to move has been lifted and the need to pack up is gone.  It frees my mind to ponder questions such as:  what exactly is “living every minute with love, grace and gratitude”?    Every minute - is that even possible?  Sounds like a rather  lofty goal - something one would put in a mission statement for a not-for- profit business.
You are also caught with the fact that man is a creature who walks in two worlds and traces upon the wall of his cave the wonders and the nightmare experience of his spiritual pilgrimage
~ Morris West

My blog forms the ‘walls of my cave’.   It allows me a place to post the good, the lovely and thrilling as well as the bad, the ugly, painful and unpleasant that I see when working as a nurse and observe as just another human being on this road called life.  My good hearted landlord would be happy about this Internet device as my having a blog undoubtedly prevents me writing out these stories on the walls of his rental or at least writing on sheets of paper and tacking them to the wall while I pondered what to do with the words. 

Alright then, turning my attention back to that first quote - I am reminded of yet another quote (in fact one that I may have posted here before):

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.   If you want to be happy, practice compassion” 
~ Dalai Lama

I find that practicing compassion can be difficult, sometimes nearly impossible – no, make that sometimes it is impossible to be compassionate all the time, at least for me.  Compassion makes more sense to me than aiming for happiness based on a life lived in “grace, love and gratitude”.  Each is something to strive for but in combination, I wonder that it can be done.   All creatures suffer and suffering for people creates human drama. "Drama" is a buzz word these days.  Not all drama is manipulative.  The old woman losing her cognition and repetitively asking if it is ‘time to eat’ is not trying to “bug” anyone.  She suffering from a disease that is killing her brain and she is suffering a complete loss of the sense of time.  The man down the hall who calls a young nurse a ‘stupid cow’ because he is in intractable pain from his colon cancer is suffering.   So was the new nurse who was trying to help and was insulted.   I wonder what Denis Waitley  meant by “love” “grace” and “gratitude”.  Mr. Waitley is a motivational speaker.   He has motivated me to understand where his prospective is rooted.  I wonder if he is a born-again Christian for instance…words like “grace” are suspect for me.  Does that make me a cynic?  In my opinion, however,  Mr. Waitley did get the bit right about what happiness was not!

"The mind wants to live forever, or to learn a very good reason why not. The mind wants the world to return its love, or its awareness... The mind's sidekick, however, will settle for two eggs over easy. The dear, stupid body is easily satisfied as a spaniel. And, incredibly, the simple spaniel can lure the brawling mind to its dish. It is everlastingly funny that the proud, metaphysically ambitious mind will hush if you give it an egg." 
~Annie Dillard

Okay, I'm done for now, but oh, by the way…I’ll have mine scrambled please!


Donna said...

I was just thinking I'll have mine scrambled as Well!!hahaaa
SO happy you don't have to pack up! Now you've got time to do all you need to get done...One box at a time...
Have a sweet day tomorrow friend...

WR said...

:-D Much better indeed. it still means another lease that expires in a year...but there could be different options between now and then. Who knows where I (or the country for that matter) will be next summer. Have a good Memorial Day dear lady. Always a treat to hear from you!

Out on the prairie said...

It seems like you just moved. I have never een pushed out, but then again I haven't rented for a number of years. I never had a good landlord it seemed, so ended up buying.I would like a few veggies thrown in my eggs.I got some in the country yesterday for a dollar a dozen. Cute kid running the operation.

the walking man said...

One Last One from me I think them that did not support our wars are veterans in their own right.

Be Well

WR said...

Yes, I would agree. It takes courage to voice an opinion that runs contrary to the majority's. No one guaranteed that living in a democracy was safe for expressing opposing views...but one can at least express those opinions. It is most sad when a poet's voice is stilled.

Donna said...

I'm so glad that you get to stay and not get booted out! Maybe, with time, you can find another place that will be even better!

WR said...

Greetings Donna! Yes, it would be nice to be able to make a sane decision about housing. :-) At least one more year will give me some "thinking time" and can decide whether it is time to buy or continue to rent and where in this world that re-rooting will happen.

Janice said...

Sorry its been so long since I've visited. Glad you don't have to move for at least another year. I have moved blogs and can now be found at
I am closing mygarden this weekend.